One moment of intimate connection at a time

Welcome, welcome, welcome.

This episode is all about the exploration and the power of intimate connection.

This episode is for you if you're realizing that connecting to others in big and little ways is nourishing for you. 

Maybe you are like many of us, me included, and connection is something that you've perhaps struggled with or had challenges with.

This idea of making new friends as we get older or feeling connected and being seen by others.

This is something that for many years I have worn almost like a badge of honor that I help others with – help create connection and community with others through a lot of my work, through retreats, through my group experiences.

Cultivating connection on retreat (in Italy, during the Savor Your Aliveness Retreat)

And yet it's something that I've held myself at a distance from.

It's something that I'm not sure I have cultivated for myself, and yet it's something that I've craved. 

And so like many of us, we're really good at doing this for others and not necessarily doing for ourselves.

And it's something that I've explored because for many years, I believed that one of my core values was belonging. Wanting to feel connected, wanting to feel at home.

But over the last few months, I've been playing with this idea and what is it really about belonging that matters to me.

As I recalibrated to it, I recognized that it wasn't so much about belonging to places or even though that's important to me.

But that I was craving was really a sense of deep true connection – to someone else, to a friend, to my partner. 

This idea of intimate connection is something that you can experience, with friends that have been friends for many, many years, but also in small ways when you just allow yourself to be fully present in an interaction.

And so I wanted to share this episode because I've noticed a few things as I've played with this, that I thought perhaps you could consider how this might apply to you or how you might experiment or allow yourself, write yourself a permission slip to explore.

And look, I'm going to be honest.

I think we're all craving connection. 

If you have watched (or if you haven't, it's definitely worth a watch!) - How to Live to 100 on Netflix explores, different communities known as kind of blue zones throughout the world where people are living much longer lives, and flourishing.

One of the commonalities between all of these places was the power of community and connection. These individuals that were aging so beautifully to 100 were connected to groups to other individuals.

Whether we recognize it or not many of us or I'll just speak for myself like to believe that we are fiercely independent and don't need anyone or anything.

But friend….I have to tell you: there's nothing wrong with wanting to be independent.

But the more I recognized my independence was a way that I was holding myself back from being connected to important people in my life, the more it has opened doors for me.